You wanna lose weight. You’ve been saying it for months, maybe even years. But here you are, still at the same weight, maybe even more, that you’ve always been. And you don’t really know why you haven’t been able just get started. Or maybe you have started but it was short lived. You couldn’t ever quite get the momentum going long enough to see results, so you gave up because it wasn’t worth the effort.
Sound familiar? If not, how about this version of the story:
You wanna lose weight. So you have. Quite well, actually. You’ve seen that goal number on the scale more than once. But not for very long because it’s always then that your body gives you the giant middle finger and starts to put it all back on seemingly overnight. Every. Last. Pound. Bringing some friends along to rub salt in the wound. So here you are, weighing more than you ever have in your entire life, wishing you weighed what you did when you first said you wanted to lose weight.
So why can’t you just do it? You’ve been successful at other things in life. As a dietitian, I’ve heard many of your stories. Widely successful in many areas of your life. But this one thing nags at you constantly. Frankly, it’s sucking all your joy.
Limiting beliefs. On various levels. The belief that you can’t succeed. This is especially true for those of you that have spent a lot of your life losing and regaining weight. After all, you do indeed have “proof” that you “can’t” succeed. But as Thomas Edison reminds us before he successfully invented the light bulb, “I have not failed, I just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” It’s true, he attempted the light bulb 10,000 times before he got it to work. Your attempts aren’t up.
How about this one? The belief that your current weight keeps you safe in some way. Sounds crazy, but think about it. As author Jen Sincero, explains, we don’t hold on to negative beliefs with out some sort of false benefit. Extra weight may provide protection from close relationships, being noticed or recognized, or being noticed by the opposite sex. This is especially true for those with a history of emotional or sexual abuse. But also think about the need to be right. When we prove ourselves right, in this case, “I can’t lose weight,” we get to stay in our excuses. We can complain about it, wallow in our pity pots and sorrow. Close friends and family can comfort us. In regards to weight loss, doing the right thing like making healthy food choices and exercising can be deemed pointless, allowing permission to make poor health decisions. And of course, you get to be right and say “See, I told you, I can’t lose weight! It’s never going to happen, it’s impossible for me, I’m stuck here! etc etc etc.” Self sabotage at its best.
This post is just scratching the surface of what limiting beliefs can do to a person who wants to lose weight. They are any belief that has kept you stuck with their false benefits. First step is to figure out what yours are so that you can create new, healthier beliefs that move you towards the person that you want to become.
Identifying these roadblocks can be a struggle. I realize working through them is not easy. But it is worth it when it “clicks” and you can really see the shift in yourself and your life. My expertise as a weigh loss and nutrition coach is to help individuals like you move through these barriers so that you can not only reach your goal, but stay there. That is why I offer nutrition group coaching at a special discount rate for my readers. If you are interested, go here to learn more!