How do I fit alcohol in during the holidays?

Can you believe it? It’s November and the holidays are just around the corner again. I am confident that many of you will have a plan this year and will stick to that plan well. But have you given any thought to alcohol?

Alcohol does a few things – of course it adds a gazillion calories, often unaccounted for. But more importantly, it lowers your inhibitions. So you know those Christmas cookies you swore you would limit to just one? Yeah, you need some self control to stick to that plan and alcohol is going to lower your ability to do that. Double whammy.

I get it. The holidays are a stressful time for a lot of us. Let’s face it, alcohol may be present at just the right time – that work party you didn’t really want to go to in the first place. Or that family gathering that usually ends up in some sort of nonsense argument that you’d rather not be a part of. Or yet again, you go home after a shopping trip you spent way too much money on and now you’re not sure how the electric bill is gonna get paid. Stress. Alcohol, like food, is a quick fix. But only temporary and ineffective long term.

Here are some tips to keep it real and sane this season:

  1. Incorporate alcohol into your plan if you usually indulge. One or two drinks max and then switch to a calorie free seltzer water. Social drinking can also get the best of us. If you continue to drink in a wine glass, but keep it alcohol free, you may surprise yourself how you really don’t notice. And if you don’t usually drink, well don’t start now!
  2. Be aware of calories. Light beer, non-dessert white wines, and liquor in calorie free or low calorie mixers are the lowest options. Dark beers, dessert wines, and fancy drinks can contain up to 800 calories a pop (mudslides, egg nog and rum, margaritas, etc). Know your serving sizes too. Once drink = 12 ounces beer, 4-6 ounces wine, 1 ounce liquor = 100 calories roughly
  3. Destress in other ways. Start with the source of your stress.
    • Lack of time? Find time weekly to do something fun or enjoyable. This may be off your normal routine since the holidays generally keep us busy. Whatever that is for you, just ten minutes of meditation, a few minutes set aside for daily devotions, reading a book, or getting your nails done can make a huge difference mentally.
    • Lack money? Trying a secret santa gift exchange among your extended family, cutting down on the amount of presents you normally buy your friends/family, and simply following a gift budget can all help. Try shopping ahead of time to space it out. It’s only early November and if we’d all start our gift shopping now, it would cut down on a lot of financial stress and keep us from battling the crowds later on. As Dave Ramsey says, Christmas is the same day every year, yet we all act like it’s a surprise emergency!
    • Exercise. We all know this helps with stress yet this will be the first to go when time is slim. Make it a priority this year to walk even if only 20-30 minutes a day. It will help you sleep better and handle any unknowns that come your way better. If you normally do your exercise in the evening, you may have to switch it up and do it in the morning during the holidays with a busier schedule. If you normally take the weekends off, you may need to go ahead and walk on the weekends to make up for missed time on the weekdays. Bottom line, be flexible when your schedule calls for it.
    • In the moment, try aromatherapy. When we are stuck in traffic or at the family dinner and a fight breaks out, it’s tempting to handle stress poorly. But don’t underestimate the power of aromatherapy from essential oils. Personal favorites include wild orange, lavender, and grounding blend. A drop or two can be worn on a diffuser necklace or rubbed between the palms of your hands and inhaled for a quick shot to the limbic brain – the center that controls our emotions.

Let me know what your strategy is going to be this holiday season. Do you have something to add or do you plan do use one of these tips?

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He actually does allow more than you can handle, so take the manna

This is a difficult time of year for many of us. Financially, emotionally, physically. While the holidays are joyous, they have a tendency to drain much of our resources, too.

It’s a time we naturally reflect on the year. And the years seems to go by faster and faster, don’t they? 2016 was a tough one. For all of us. So much strife and hatred. And then the holidays come and we are reminded of our losses, those we are missing, financial hardships, and it can be downright sad.

I’ll be honest. This year I’ve felt much like one of the Israelites depending on God for my daily manna. There hasn’t been much, if any, leftover to store up for days ahead. Not financially, not physically, not emotionally. For the first time in my life, I became a work at home mom. In many ways, a dream come true. But difficult. And I don’t work on my own schedule like I thought I would. I work on two little boys’ schedule. I am just not used to stopping every ten minutes to pour a drink, fix a snack, change the television channel, clean up a mess, or wipe a butt. It’s downright maddening to take two hours to finish a project that should take fifteen minutes.

Financially, it’s been tough. I absolutely love working from home as a 100% self-employed woman. Making this decision earlier this year, without a doubt, was a calling God placed on my life. At the time, I was sure He was telling me that I would prosper as a momtreprenuer and show the world how amazing I would be as a work at home mom. How I could inspire other moms to do the same. But that wasn’t His plan at all. What He wanted for me was to see how He could could provide for my family’s daily needs even when I had no idea how those needs would be met.

And He’s been faithful. It’s another post for all of the ways He has provided for us. And how I attended my company’s national convention to walk the stage so that I could celebrate hitting a big milestone in my business last September.

Emotionally, we are limited. When times get hard and stressful, we turn to food, alcohol, medications or drugs, shopping, and other ineffective outlets to stuff it down. I know many of my readers struggle in this area, especially emotional eating. In 1 Cor 10:13, the scripture tells us this, “No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and He will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation He will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.” This scripture is often misunderstood because we assume that means He won’t give us more than we can handle. That’s false. This scripture is referring to being tempted in ways that move us away from dependance on Him. (i.e. eating a jar of nutella after a hard day.) 

So we get blindsided when hardship comes our way because we believed God knew we weren’t strong enough to handle that situation. Truth is, He did know. We are weak in all hardships that come our way. We have to make the choice to accept His provisions and guidance. (i.e. don’t buy that jar of nutella in the first place).

​What I have learned this year and am most thankful for is that even though difficulties may come my way, He is always there paving a path and providing the manna.

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​If you struggle in the area of emotional eating, I highly recommend Lysa Terkeursts’ book, Made to Crave: Satisfying Your Deepest Desire with God, Not Food.

 

 

You make time for what you want

It’s true. I know we hate to admit it. But think about the last really good fiction novel you read. You stayed up until all hours of the night just to read “one more chapter,” didn’t you? I know you did because I’ve done it, too. Ever been on a Netflix binge? And then it was suddenly okay for the kids to watch a second movie in a row to give you another 90 minutes to find out if Glen was still alive?

How much time today have you spent scrolling through social media feeds only to learn what your old high school acquaintance had for dinner last night, your neighbor’s cat did to the carpet, and the hair stylist you used to go to five years ago had to say about her ex boyfriend? Or why your Aunt Sally who lives three states away that you haven’t seen in years hates it when people use bad grammar.

3 hours. That’s the amount of time the average person spends on social media per day mindlessly scrolling through miles of cats, babies, baby showers for people we haven’t spoken to in 10 years, meals, bathroom selfies, rainbows, the heart shaped crack in the sidewalk, the political rant, the declaration of a Facebook fast, post work out selfies, a desperate plea to buy my wrap, lipstick, join my team, try a sample, try the best thing since sliced bread, and on and on and on. And it does nothing for us but s

We all want and need more time. And money. Well most of us. Some have figured out that more time IS more money. What could you do with 3 extra hours a day? Business owners, what money making activities could you do that would totally transform your product, service, and/or marketing? Moms, what kind of house cleaning, quality time with kids, meal prep, or SLEEP (hallelujah!) could you get? Those of you trying to lose weight or get healthier? What kind of exercise habits could you establish, cooking style would you try, recipes might you research, or eating habits could you try (say sitting down at the table, taking that 20 minutes to eat that you keep hearing is so much better for your body?)

So yeah. Start with where you spend your time. Spend it wisely and you may see your bank account go up.

I’ll be dedicating future posts on this concept. Because conventional thinking tells us we need to do everything ourselves to save a dollar. We live in the age of DIY, after all. But I’m challenging you to value your TIME first. In turn, you might be surprised at how the money falls into place.

Need extra help in this area? A book I highly recommend is The Miracle Morning  or The Miracle Morning for Network Marketers. How you start your day sets you up for how you will end your day. If you are like me, it’s more practical to listen to audiobooks, but do what works best for you.

Grocery shopping lean on a lean budget

 

I get this question, or shall I say complaint, a lot. “I want to eat healthy, but it’s expensive.” I’m here to tell you, it doesn’t have to be. I hear you. I don’t want to spend my entire budget on groceries, either. But I don’t want to live on junk food. Here are a few tips I’ve learned on how to balance the two practically.

1. Limit impulse purchases. How do you realistically do this? For starters, you don’t go ready to chew your arm off because you haven’t eaten since you first woke up six hours ago. You also go with a thought out list planned arimg_2951ound what’s on sale, the meals you planned to prepare for the week (including breakfasts and lunches), and you plan to have leftovers or double up uses for certain items.

2. Think outside of the grocery chain box. Buy your produce in season. You may invest in a farming co-op. They can be very cost effective and as a bonus, save you a bunch of time in the store if they deliver right to your doorstep! Local farmers markets and stands are also great options to buy seasonal, ripe produce. Meat markets can also be a great way to get way save on fresh meats. Bonus, these places usually only offer what you are looking for, which means no room for impulse purchases at the check out on candy, chips, etc.

3. AVOID couponing. You read that right. I know, I know. But I tried it for a season and I ended up spending more because I often found myself buying things I didn’t need simply because I had a coupon for them. It was also very time consuming not only to look through the papers and magazines, but also in the store while I was shuffling through my coupon files looking through what I had clipped.

4. Buy generic. They are often the same product as name brands, just different packaging.

5. Think simple, whole foods. Does it grow on a tree? Can you picture it in nature? There are no chocolate chip cookies trees. No potato chip farms. The real potatoes are pennies and pack so many more nutrients than their ultra processed counterparts.

6. Plan for three meatless meals a week. Beans, eggs, and high fiber grains like quinoa are vcmp_slideshow_plateery inexpensive ways to include protein in a meal without meat. Better yet, always plan meals around the vegetables and grains and make meat the garnish. It’s cheaper and better for you!

Happy shopping! Would love to know in the comments what you come up with.

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