I thought it would be fun to highlight Betty White. I was reading some of her life advice tips and some things that she recommended for having a fulfilling and happy life. Side note: what an awesome thing it is to be somebody that not only turns ninety-five (because that’s always a big deal no matter who you are), but to be somebody who’s ninety-five and to be as alive as she is. To be somebody that people want advice from and to have lived that kind of life where people generally think of you as a great human being. It is just a great accomplishment in general.
She gave some really great advice (and in my Dietitian mind) for how you can make that work right now with your weight loss goals, especially those of you who struggle with emotional eating.
The first one that was notable to me was to stay busy. Busy to her in a good way. She didn’t mean stay busy where it’s all focused on you. Don’t be a busybody out there gossiping, out there making it all about “me me me” and focusing on your problems. What she meant was to be busy in a way where you are focusing on what really interests you in life and indulge yourself in that. Really immerse yourself in your interests and go all out for it. Give your time to what deserves your attention. She used that phrase, “deserves it.” What deserves your indulgence? On a side note, Danielle Laporte’s self-study book, The Firestarter Sessions, goes into excellent detail on what it really means to indulge in the passion that lights you up.
I’m going to be completely blunt here and tell you that when you’re bored, food does not deserve your time. You do not deserve to fill your time up with eating. Indulge yourself in what really lights you up. That’s what you deserve. That’s what Betty White has done with her time. And you can tell by the different things she’s done in her life.
The second one is to get up early. When I think about the people who are consistently active and people that recommend a good time to exercise – it’s always in the morning. Generally speaking the best time to exercise is when you’re going to be consistent at it. But the morning tends to be the best because your kids are sleeping and there’s just not a whole lot going on in the early hours of the morning. She said she gets up at 6:30 am and that’s when she starts her day. You get a lot more done. I think a lot of people just think clearer. If you’ve ever read the book, Miracle Morning – there’s one for network marketers, there’s one for parents, for writers, for salespeople, and there’s one for everybody – there’s a lot to be said about getting up early in the morning. And I have a feeling she probably started her day and still does in such a way that aligns with Miracle Morning.
The last one is to not indulge in regrets. This is where people who are trying to lose weight tend to get stuck in that viscous cycle. Your indulging in the regrets of what you ate, what you didn’t do, failing on that diet, falling of track, and you’re letting yourself stay in it for too long. Indulging in those regrets just keeps you off track. So you end up staying off track for so long that you don’t even know how to get back on track even when you want to.
She gave herself as an example -she’s been married three times. She said “you know what, if I had to do it all over again knowing what I know now, I would have gotten married three times all over again.” She doesn’t indulge in regrets. She doesn’t waste her time focusing on things that don’t deserve her time.
So what is that you’re focusing on, what are you regretting? This is what fuels stress eating. You feel guilty because you ate something that you shouldn’t of eaten, so you eat to make yourself feel better and then you feel guilty even more and then it just becomes another viscous cycle.
To summarize, keep yourself busy by occupying your time with things that light you up. Get up early in the morning – I think we can all agree that it’s before 9 a.m. (often much earlier). And don’t indulge in regrets. Take these tips to heart. I think we can also agree somebody like Betty White knows a thing or two about having a fulfilling life.
Having said all of this, if you have been diligently working at this since the turn of the New Year (or maybe you haven’t) and you’re just plain frustrated right now with your results so far – this may be helpful IF you’re ready to dig in your heels and get to work on it.
Are you? Follow these 10 tips faithfully for the next two weeks (it’s only two weeks) and you will see results – as much as 10-15 lbs gone kinda results.
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Jillian McMullen, CSOWM, RDN, LDN